“Sammy’s Story” Of The Lomas’ Boys

We knew about Sammy’s condition prior to his birth. Not much was known about it in 1994.  He was the 8th person in the world diagnosed with it and the first one in utero.  At the time, the diagnosis was the technical name “22q13 deletion syndrome”.

The Lomas Boys

Another complication was the fact that he was born premature (we almost lost him in the hospital twice, but he definitely was a fighter) . He was in the hospital for about 4 months before he was allowed to come home. He weighed 2 lbs. and 4 ounces and was 13 inches long. We lived in Naples (FL) at the time, and Sue ended up being admitted to Arnold Palmer Hospital in Orlando.

I was working in Caracas,Venezuela. So we made “home” for the next 4 months at a place they set up for extended housing (similar to the “Ronald McDonald House). At that time (after 6 weeks), we didn’t  know how long he would be in the hospital.  So unfortunately, I had to return to work. So Sue stayed in Orlando and stayed with Sam around the clock.  And I flew in to Orlando on Friday nights and flew back out on Monday mornings, back to work it Caracas.

They had to take him early because I almost lost Sue at that time, she developed “help syndrome”. If they didn’t deliver immediately, I could have lost both of them. But that was not to happen as God certainly had plans for us !!!

~ Rich Lomas – sammysrun@aol.com

“Jillian‘s Story” Part1

Hello. My name is Daniel Friedman and this is the story of my daughter, Jillian. Jillian’s story is long and complicated, so here is the condensed version.

My wife, Susan and I both love children but were never able to have them. When my wife discovered she was pregnant, it was truly a time for celebration and the anticipation of having our own child.

Things went along smoothly until Susan went into an unexpected early labor. Jillian was born at 32 weeks weighing only 2 lbs. Jillian was then placed into the neonatal intensive care unit for many weeks. We were told that premature babies had many issues to face and no one was certain of our daughter’s chances of survival. We knew from the start that something was terribly wrong. Because of a compromised immune system, Jillian was constantly ill. She also needed surgeries on her eyes, for crossed eyes and later on, lazy eyes, and tubes placed into her ears due to constant ear infections. She developed severe allergies and the worst case of eczema I have ever seen. We are still dealing with those issues.

Susan, Jillian & Daniel Friedman Disney World – July 2009

Daniel, Susan & Jillian Friedman Disney World Theater – July 2009

We knew Jillian had some type of neurological problem, because she was floppy, could not sit up on her own, could not walk (although she did try really hard to do so), and the list goes on and on. By the time she turned two, we took her to see a neurologist at the Cleveland Clinic. Many tests later, we were told that Jillian was not only autistic, but was missing part of the vermis covering the 4th ventricle into the brain. The vermis is a membrane-like structure that sits at the top of the cerebellum covering all four ventricles into the brain. The 4th ventricle controls motor activity for the entire body.

Jillian’s doctors gave us very little hope of survival and told us to prepare for an early death. We did not want to give up on our child. Many months and many doctors later, it was discovered that somehow, Jillian could survive just the way she was. Her motor issues coupled with the Autism, have made all our lives quite challenging. I want to give my wife all the credit for finding the medical resources and therapies Jillian desperately needed. This is still a work in progress.

Today, Jillian is a happy and healthy 15 yr. old who just started high school at Ida S. Baker in Cape Coral. She is in a special vocational program and we are hopeful that someday she will be able to live independently and become a contributing member of society. Thank you for reading Jillian’s story.

 ~Daniel Friedman – daniel2518@embarqmail.com

“Jillian’s Story”  Part 2

Hi Wilbur! Here is an update to Jillian’s story on the Dad’s page.

Shortly after Jillian began high school (in 2007) she began to get sick all the time, and started to miss school.  Finally, in late 2008 Jillian was hospitalized at Jackson Memorial Hospital, in Miami, Florida. At that time, we found out that she had End Stage Renal Disease and would need a kidney transplant to survive. It was shocking to learn that Jillian had less than three months to live, and so, the only chance she would have was to have a family member donate a kidney. Fortunately, her Dad was a perfect match and the transplant took place on January 22, 2009. Shortly after the transplant, we learned that Jillian had a very rare genetic disorder called Joubert-Nephronophthisis.

About 1-500,000 people are diagnosed with this disease, and it is very difficult to get a diagnosis until it’s almost too late (as was the case with Jillian). The scientists are all baffled, as Jillian does not meet full criteria for either the Joubert Syndrome or the Nephronophthisis, and remains in genetic studies. This particular disease is somewhat like having and ASD, because it does come in varying degrees with varying symptoms.  Since the transplant, Jill’s cognitive abilities have improved significantly, and she is beginning to make gains in school. Her physician’s tell us that she is a very lucky girl and should have a long and full life ahead of her. Thank You!!! ~ Susan Friedman

Shelby's Nurse

Thomas J. Nurse

Shelby's Nurse

“Shelby’s Story”

The following story about my daughter Shelby Nurse was recently published on the web at the Family Center of Technology and Disabilities. The story highlights Shelby’s success utilizing assistive technology.

As her father this story capture the essence of my hopes for her as well as the validating the years of hard work and involved advocacy. I offer this not to pat myself on the back but rather to encourage active, passionate advocacy.

I hope you enjoy the story and I look forward to hearing your stories as well. Remember the harder we work, the “luckier” we get. Never give up and good luck to all. Here’s her story:

 

“Goals Are Just Dreams With Deadlines”

Meet Shelby Nurse and learn about her successful use of assistive technology.

Beginning high school is a very big step in a young person’s life and it can be very challenging. Luckily, for Shelby Nurse, the transition into high school was very easy and she is really enjoying the new school. Shelby is a fourteen year old freshman at her local high school in Florida. Her favorite parts of the school day are hanging out with her friends and learning. She especially likes learning about English and science and is looking forward to taking Biology next year so that she can dissect a frog.

One thing Shelby learned about at the beginning of the year was how to write resumes. She was understandably proud of herself when she was able to list her many accomplishments, including her work as an effective self-advocate and assistive technology educator. Shelby has already made presentations and speeches throughout the state of Florida and nationally at over fifty conferences and on television. She has also appeared before both House and Senate committees of the Florida Legislature. Shelby made her first presentation eight years ago when she was only six years old. She enjoys making these presentations with her father because she feels that it is very important for young people with disabilities to learn how to advocate for themselves. She wants people to be inspired into action by hearing her speak about how assistive technology has helped her get to where she is today.

Assistive technology has had an extremely positive impact on Shelby’s life and has helped her compensate for some of the effects of her Cerebral Palsy. She began using AT when she was barely two years old when she got her first power chair; at about the same time she started accessing games using an Apple computer. Her father felt it was very important to start her off young so that she would be able to grow and develop with the help of AT. Shelby uses a lot of AT at school and home, which is really helpful. She has been fully included in general education classrooms since she was in kindergarten. Shelby uses AT for mobility, writing, visual supports, accessing information and entertainment.

At school, Shelby uses a Dell laptop with a lot of software programs that help her with different subjects. She uses Kurzweil 3000 software to digitize printed materials, to write, take tests, and to study. She also uses it to convert text to speech that helps her access her textbooks and other school work. She uses Virtual Pencil software for algebra. On her laptop, Shelby uses Microsoft Outlook that replaces the typical hand written student planner, to help her organize her time and track assignments. Shelby recognizes that her AT tools are very powerful and without this technology she would not be able to keep up with her classmates. The laptop was provided to her by the school system for use at school, home and in the community.

Shelby’s AT use continues at home. The Nurses’ house was recently renovated to make it even more accessible for Shelby. They relocated the hallway that leads to both her and her brother’s bedrooms and enlarged the bathroom to include a five-by-five foot roll-in shower, a large soaking bathtub, and a wheelchair accessible sink with a hands free faucet that works great while Shelby is seated in her power chair.

Her bedroom closet is now accessible so she can pick out her own clothes. X10 and other environmental control devices were installed all over the house so Shelby can now use remote controls to open the front and back doors, turn on the lights, answer the phone, or call for assistance by using the house wiring to communicate with the various X10 controlled devices. After all of these renovations, Shelby has been able to become a lot more independent in her house, which she loves.

In addition to her “new” house, Shelby uses a lot of other AT devices at home. She has an Apple G5 iMac computer in her room, which she bought herself with money earned from paid speaking engagements. With it she accesses the Internet, uses instant messaging and sends emails. Shelby loves to use regular consumer items as AT devices. Last Christmas she was given an iPod; in addition to using iTunes for mixing her music, she also uses it as her alarm clock every morning. The iPod makes it possible for her to set her alarm clock independently while she is still unable to access a regular alarm clock. She also loves waking up every morning to the music she selected herself. Another way Shelby uses popular devices as AT is in her use of the speaker phone function on her telephone because otherwise she has trouble holding the phone and speaking clearly.

Since Shelby’s home is so accessible, she likes spending time there with her parents and younger brother, Jordan. She also enjoys having her friends come over to hang out. She says that the biggest obstacle her Cerebral Palsy causes is the fact that it is hard for her to go to her friends’ houses because they are not accessible. When not socializing at home, she likes going with her friends to the mall where she enjoys shopping.

Shelby is a very busy young lady, but she does find time to relax. In her spare time, she enjoys watching her favorite television shows, Seventh Heaven, Commander and Chief, and Laguna Beach. She also spends her free time learning effective ways to advocate for herself and for the assistive technology she needs. For example Shelby, along with her father, Tom Nurse, use the Florida state education standards, both for herself and when educating others as a tool to identify what a student is expected to do and to then help find options to access the curriculum for people with special needs. One good example of this is a simple assignment to construct a poster, which can be hard for some people with special needs. Instead of creating a traditional poster, Shelby had the bright idea to make a poster PowerPoint presentation, which was very successful. Shelby believes that it is important that the student be involved as much as possible in helping identify their own accommodations because this approach can help teach how to self-advocate without being hostile.

All of Shelby’s experiences are going to help her for the rest of her life. Currently, Shelby would like to go to college to become either a lawyer or a child psychologist. She wants to become a lawyer because she loves to defend or promote a position and is very good at it. She wants to be a child psychologist because she enjoys working with children. Whichever profession she chooses, it will be the right one for her.

Shelby has accomplished more in her lifetime than most twenty year olds. She is guided by her self-determination to eliminate the stereotypes that face people with disabilities. That is the one thing she would change about this world. By speaking and advocating for people with disabilities and AT, Shelby is helping to erase those stereotypes. She is an extraordinary young woman who is doing a lot for her cause and will continue to impact the world.

If you have or know of a child/teen who has experienced success through the use of assistive technology that would like to be featured, please contact us at aczapp@aed.org.

~ Thomas  J. Nurse – tnurse@me.com

Rafael & Johanna Rose Arteaga - ddugah@msn.com

“It is easier for a father to have children than children to have a real father.” ~ Pope Paul XXIII

“Some say our destiny is as much a part of us as we are of it. Others say fate is woven together like a cloth, so that one’s destiny intertwines with many others. It’s the one thing we search for, or fight to change. Some never find it. But there are some who are led”

……. Disney movie Brave. (She has made me see it FOUR TIMES ALREADY!)

~ Rafael A Arteaga – August 24, 2012 – ddugah@msn.com

The Many Faces of JoJo

The Girl that will Capture Your Heart

It took me until I was fifty-five years old to think about all this in any detail,” he went on, “and by that time I had lived through over twenty-eight hundred Saturdays. I got to thinking that if I lived to be seventy-five, I only had about a thousand of them left to enjoy. So I went to a toy store and bought every single marble they had.

I ended up having to visit three toy stores to round up 1,000 marbles. I took them home and put them inside a large, clear plastic container right here in the shack next to my gear.

Every Saturday since then, I have taken one marble out and thrown it away. I found that by watching the marbles diminish, I focused more on the really important things in life. There’s nothing like watching your time here on this earth run out to help get your priorities straight.

Now let me tell you one last thing before I sign off with you and take my lovely daughter out for breakfast. This morning, I took the very last marble out of the container. I figure that if I make it until next Saturday then I have been given a little extra time. And the one thing we can all use is a little more time.”

 An excerpt from “Charging the Human Battery”  by Mac Anderson – March 5, 2012

“Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff” … and it’s all small stuff…

Lesson relearned……..at Publix today, just picked up the kids, I was tired and of course the store was busy and not enough help…My daughter, who knows this lesson, and who LOVES TO SHOP, was greeting everyone in the store! HI! She said to everyone she saw!! Thanks to the 99.9% that responded back! At the checkout, my tenacious little girl kept trying to greet a man who kept ignoring her. I finally led my daughter away telling her to leave that man alone. Well he commented that it was about time someone came and “shut this stupid girl up!”…..I momentarily forgot I was a Christian and went up to this “gentleman” intending to see “what his problem was”……My daughter grabbed me and said, “SORRY DADDY…. I LOVE YOU” I had to pick her up (no easy task anymore) and just hold her….it wasn’t her fault…she just knew this lesson …and I just needed to remember that MY KIDS are the BIG STUFF….THE REST? WELL…….it’s all small stuff …Thanks JOJO for the reminder……still… it would have felt good just to “remind” that person that she still HAS a Dad….

~ Rafael A Arteaga – March 17, 2010

“I am NOT perfect, but I will be there for you!”

February 12, 2000 my daughter, Johanna Rose is born. The first thing the doctor attending my daughter says is, “You know your daughter has Down Syndrome, correct?”   “Downs Syndrome?  What’s that” I ask…  He goes on to say that “it is a form of mental retardation. She will not develop normally, typically won’t walk or talk till she is seven or eight and may have many issues as well.”  I was stunned!  What do I tell my wife, Sherry! Why is this happening?  In addition the doctors were having trouble stabilizing her, her breathing was not right. So the whole rest of the morning (she was born @ 4:15am) I was going between my wife who was in pain in recovery and my daughter in the Pediatric ICU.  In between, I stopped by the chapel and prayed that this was all a mistake.  My sister and father in law also joined me in praying that this was all a mistake.

After 4 or 5 days of self pity I looked at my daughter and saw that I was going to love and enjoy her as long as I could. So she went to developmental preschool, we joined the support groups and I (we) learned to be parents again!  Yes, she was in the hospital a lot. I took her to the majority of them. I held her down while they took blood from her, x-rayed her, put IVs in her, stuck probes down her throat. All the while she would look right at me as if she did something wrong!. We took her to evaluations for therapies, went to countless meetings to have her included in regular classes in school, all the while giving her all the meds she needed to take.

But!  I was able to somehow pay for the meds, the co-pays for all the doctors and specialists we had to see. And yes, she started to progress “in her own time.”  She walks, runs, writes on the walls. All the things kids do. 

Yes we have to still give her monthly (now weekly) IV injections so she can stave off infection, but I thank the Lord every day she is with us! So were my prayers answered? YES THEY WERE!  I asked for her to be alright. And she is.

 So now, as on that first day, you knew you would never let harm come her way. Your heart skips a beat every time you look at her as you watch her sleep. You hope & pray to do everything right, although you may make mistakes along the way.

You often wonder what she will grow up to be. I’m sure you will be there to always catch her if she fails because Daddy’s little Angel she will always be.

~ Rafael A Arteaga – August 1, 2011

3900 Saturdays

3900 Saturdays…… Went to the movies and fixed dinner for my daughter….. I made this one count…..

“You’re busy with your job. I’m sure they pay you well but it’s a shame you have to be away from home and your family so much. Hard to believe a young fellow should have to work sixty or seventy hours a week to make ends meet. It’s too bad you missed your daughter’s dance recital,” he continued; “Let me tell you something that has helped me keep my own priorities.” And that’s when he began to explain his theory of a “thousand marbles.”

“You see, I sat down one day and did a little arithmetic. The average person lives about seventy-five years. I know, some live more and some live less, but on average, folks live about seventy-five years. Now then, I multiplied 75 times 52 and I came up with 3,900, which is the number of Saturdays that the average person has in their entire lifetime. Now, stick with me, Tom, I’m getting to the important part.